About Me

On September 23, 1990, I woke up with a severe case of what was later to be diagnosed as CFIDS (chronic fatigue immune dysfunction syndrome), later known as ME/CFS. and finally given ME as its official name in 2011 by an international committee of experts in the illness. ME (myalgic encephalomyelitis) has been the name of this illness in Canada and Europe from the beginning. I should add that the name still isn't in common use.

It was only in 1999 that I regained enough cognitive abilities to sign on to a computer and begin simple tasks again. After beginning a med that helped calm the Central Nervous System allowing me to tolerate light and sound again, I started writing poetry. I love it, and am pleased with my luck publishing it and my haiga in journals and in six chapbooks/books. It took time to write them, but that’s what I had.

Many people think ME/CFS is just about being 'tired'. Yes, that's one extremely significant symptom. I could ride my bike 26 miles pre ME and the 'tiredness' didn't even approach what you feel with this illness since the electrical potential of our muscles don't bounce back the way they do in healthy people. (this is measurable, for the record)

When this illness first hit, I felt as if I had been transported to a place I no longer recognized. I couldn't keep my balance. Everything was blurry and out of focus. I couldn't remember the name for common objects. As for making myself a sandwich, who could remember how or even why I was standing in front of this green whirring box. It was one of the most frightening times of my life.

People I thought were friends soon left my life one by one. Only a tiny core of close friends remained. Another devastating blow. One friend of two years never called me again from the day I got sick. Being unable to function, I had no way to meet new people. I learned a lot about friendship as the years passed by. I now have new friends...people who care about me and not what I can do for them or with them. This part of the illness has been a real gift.

Originally thought to be 'all in our minds', then named 'Chronic Fatigue Syndrome', the implication that fatigue is the only problem. A full public awareness campaign has been in effect for a number of years now, reflecting the neurological/immunological components of this illness, with the CDC finally publicly recognizing this as a 'real' illness at last. A genetic marker has also been uncovered. According to Dr. Nancy Klimas, a blood test for subtypes of the illness may be not far away. There is also evidence of brain inflammation. Nancy Klimas, once a major researcher in the field until funding dried up, has been quoted as comparing the effects of ME/CFS on an individual's life with end-stage AIDS or people undergoing chemotherapy.

Exciting recent 2009 research from the Whittemore-Peterson Institute initially revealed the possible presence of a retrovirus in the blood of people with this illness but, to date, replications of this study have been disappointing.. We're a good way yet from answering a lot of questions about this connection but, for the first time, interest has been taken in the disease to a proportion we've not seen. Follow-up research has produced negative results until a recent study from NIH revealing the discovery of a related virus.

ME/CFS affects concentration, short-term memory, the ability to learn new things, causes dizziness, balance problems, visual problems (try looking at a display of canned goods and keep your balance--or flashing lights or piles of 'stuff'). It can cause tinnitus, muscular 'roaming' pain, noise sensitivity, sore throats and voice loss, killer headaches, TMJ, difficulty following conversations and that dreaded 'brain fog', to list the main symptoms, all of which I have.

For nine years, I was too dizzy to read, to watch TV, to work on the computer, not to mention the losses of my beloved bicycle, piano playing, sailing, and a number of other interests. I totally lost my voice for three years and had to communicate by notes or fax. For many years after I could only have one brief conversation a day before my throat became too painful to continue or even talk for the next few days. In the fall of 2008, I serendipitously discovered after my first getaway in 18 years for three days in a condo in Daytona that moisture enabled my voice to last longer. I started running a dry mist humidifier each evening and could talk significantly more. Recently, in the fall of 2010, following our car being rear-ended and a heavy case of whiplash, I lost my voice again for six months. Finally the head of the ENT department (Voice Disorders) at the U. Miami diagnosed the source of pain as fibromyalgia in the throat muscles and told me that I was tensing my throat because of that pain. While he couldn't remove the pain, speech therapy could teach me to talk without tensing. I did that and am back to where I was before, ie being able to talk for a limited amount of time before the pain is too much.

During my worst years, I told myself each day that all I had to do was get through that day, step by step, and survive. It was all I could do. When I improved enough after close to a decade to do a few more things, it felt like a miracle.

Before this illness hit, I was a 'health nut' and former Clinical Psychologist of sixteen years, having switched over to join my husband in his business and also write novels--a lifelong dream. I biked daily, did our yard work, sailed, played piano, had many friends, was active in our chamber of commerce and in Zonta, a professional women's' service organization. As a Clinical Psychologist, I lived and worked in such diverse places as St Louis, Missouri, Hawaii (gorgeous beyond belief), Rhode Island, Boston, and West Palm Beach, Florida.

In the late seventies, leaving the Boston commune where I had lived for three years, the then 'love of my life' and I , accompanied by my cat, 'Monster', traveled six months on a 22 foot sailboat on a meandering trip which planted me here in Florida.

Talk about roughing it :-) The Vineyard, Long Island Sound, the Chesapeake Bay, the Outer Banks all hold their special wonders, as do the many other sights along the way. Wait until you picnic on an island where shoeless wild ponies run free, learn to read the sky and ocean for the weather, and fall into waking and sleeping along with the rhythm of Mother Nature. I loved it.

After living in Florida a few years, my current husband and I sailed over to the Bahamas for a much shorter trip, down the Abacos Chain of Cays to Green Turtle, a great Cay! The Bahamas you see from a small boat doesn't even resemble where the cruise ships go in. Poverty and beauty live side by side on these smaller Cays.

My life has changed profoundly from those days, but as they say, 'If life serves up lemons, then make some lemonade'

Well, one can only drink so much lemonade, but right now it appears I have no choice.

The next time you meet someone with with this illness, please don't say 'I get tired too'. Try to understand their frustrations. Don't send them every 'cure' you read about or tell them you've found the doctor who can 'cure anybody', then get mad if your advice isn't followed.. Chances are high that they've read or tried everything imaginable and more and are weary of hearing the same thing over and over.. If there was a magic bullet , we would all already be cured. Don't tell them they can cure themselves with their mind. The mind-body connection is very important, but it's not magic. Ask anybody with cancer about that one. Anyway, Thanks from me and the millions of others affected.

And thanks for visiting my page!

One good link to learn about the illness is HERE

Poetry bio: (this section is also listed alone under my BIO link on my homepage): Among other journals/publications, I've had my poetry, haiga and/or haiku published or accepted for publication in Chiron Review, Main Street Rag, The Cliffs: Soundings (print), Boxcar Poetry Review, Empowerment4Women, In The Fray, Outlaw Poetry Press, Ken Again, Blackmail Press, Peshekee River Poetry, Limestone Circle (print), Poems Niederngasse, Erosha, The Smoking Poet, Remark Journal,The Wild Goose Poetry Review, Main Street Rag (print), Thunder Sandwich, The Dead Mule: An Anthology of Southern Literature, From East to West, Empowerment4Woman, In the Fray, Rusty Truck, Short Stuff, International War Vets Poetry Yearly Anthologies (print), Small Potatoes, MiPo Quarterly, MiPo Weekly, OCHO (print) Dakota House, Verse Libre, Tears in the Fence (a U.K. print journal), Full of Crow, The Oregon Review, MindFire, Passage Through August, Simply Haiku, Haigaonline. Moonset (print), Sketchbook , Ink , Sweat, and Tears, Haijinx, Remark, and numerous other journals. Four poems are in the print publication, Women of the Web(print), edited by the editor of Verse Libre, the Poetry Editor of MiPo, and Dorothy Meinko, an excellent poet, the MiPo Bonsai Edition 2004, and the Pressure Point Anthology, compiled by Ron Androla. My poem in the spring 2007 issue of Boxcar won the Peer Award for the issue and has been nominated as one of three by that journal for a 'Best of the Internet' Anthology. A poem in The Dead Mule was also been nominated. Also look for my poetry on this Australian 2003 year end retrospective website.

I was featured poet in 2008 in both In The Fray and Empowerment4Women and in 2009, in From East to West. A nice surprise at the end of 2008 was a Pushcart Prize Nomination and two more nominations at the end of 2009, as well as two nominations for the Best of the Net and Best of the Web nominations.

My self-portrait haiga is in the mid-season 2007 issue of Haigaonline and in a 2006 issue of Simply Haiku. The Haigaonline editor took time to read this bio first and wrote a wonderful introduction to the haiga, including information about the illness I deal with . I hadn't yet added the note about the name change but nevertheless, it's a wonderful issue and spreads the word about ME/CFS even further. Click on my name in this link to read and see the haiga HERE. Take time to visit the rest of the issue, too. I've also published other haiga with a wide range of images. My haiga has also appeared in Moonset and Sketchbook.. I don't post all of my haiga links since I've published over a hundred of them now, but , again, more can be found in the Spring/Summer 2009 issue of Simply Haiku.. I've also had haiga regularly in Haigaonline and Sketchbook and in recent and upcoming issues of From The Gean. A collaborative haiga with Geoff Sanderson was recently in Haijinx (second haiga down on the page) and several in From the Gean..

Alan Summers is dangling a carrot in front of my nose to focus more on my haiku and submit it alone and Ernie Berry has kindly agreed to help me hone my skills. Thank you both!! . I've published some over the years but it's not been my focus. Seems to be shifting more that way with his encouragement.

Books

Postscripts to the Dead was published by MiePOEsias Press in late 2012. Free downloads are available at MagCloud.com. Print copies can also be ordered. The cost is 7.99 plus shipping. The book was reviewed in the December issue 2012 of Wild Goose Review.

Paul Newman Blues, a mini chapbook, was published by Full of Crow Press but their webmaster hasn't yet put any of the books they published on their website. Contact me if interested. I have a few copies.

The Nature of Attraction, co-authored with poet Scott Owens, was released late July 2010 by Main Street Rag. It can be ordered at http://www.mainstreetrag.com. as long as the supply lasts. No re-runs will be published. Cost is five dollars plus postage. A review of the book is at Pirenes Fountain Journal. Scroll down the reviews page to read it.

Also: Lummox Press released my first full length poetry book, Sea Trails. fall of 2009. The book includes poems based on my 1977 sailing trip in my 22 foot sailboat and includes portions of log notes, some charts, and photos. I'm excited. Order at Lummox Press or Amazon. I have a few personal copies for sale. Click on my cover at Lummox to find not only a paypal button, but excerpts from the book. Signed copies can be requested under 'special instructions' or an email to the editor after the order is placed. We can't provide signed ones from Amazon. The book has been reviewed in Wild Goose Review, Pedestal Magazine and on Goodreads. Lummox tells me it's one of the press's best sellers ever. Cost is 15 dollars plus postage.

Hesitant Commitments, was released fall of 2008 by Lummox Press in its prestigious Little Red Book series. Cost is six dollars, including postage (in the U.S. Add 20 percent if out of the U.S.) An anthology of the best of the Little Red Books over the past ten years was just released in the spring of 2009 and can be also found on the above Lummox Site.

My first small poetry book, Abrasions, published by Rank Stranger Press now has a limited number of copies left. See my blog for ordering via check or paypal. A chapbook with Tammy Trendle, Interchangeable Goddesses. was published by Rose of Sharon, a press run by S.A. Griffin , editor of The Outlaw Bible of American Poetry, but no copies are left and no new printing is planned.. David Smith was also involved in publishing our book but is no longer with Rose of Sharon press.

For a summer 2008 interview with me on Didi Menendez's Poets and Artists blog, go HERE.

One of my poems appeared in the Brazilian Socialist Party newspaper. Here's here in PDF format. I'm equal opportunity...one also appeared in the California Valley Democrats newsletter, with a circulation of around 10,000 but that's not online.

Video Reading

A video of me reading my poetry appeared the week of June 9, 2007 at http://www.poetryvlog.com/, a site run by George Wallace and his associate, Michael Mart. Thanks, George and Michael.

THIS LINK goes to a slide show of some of my haiga and graphics, many of them from my self-portrait series. Sound, so turn on your speakers. A friend created this for me with a program that doesn't allow ample time for reading the haiku on the pages, but...

I've become more and more aware of the angels in my life...there are many, but here are the words of two who have written recently.

sending you lots of love and peace and patience that is the hardest isn't it and of course the sense of betrayal...but you know you are truly amazing and have accomplished in the face of at the hand of in spite of your fine adversary an incredible amount and you should feel as least as triumphant as the woman who wrote Sea Biscuit--i applaud and laud you.

from Judi Goldberg, poet, nurse, brain tumor survivor, and human be-ing extraordinaire

and another note:

Like you told me when I wasn't able to do my walking. "This is just how it is now. It doesn't mean it will always be that way." That helped me a lot and sure enough I am able to walk as much as I want with no pain.

from Margie Stevenson, long time friend, retired psychologist, survivor of lymphoma, and shining spirit in my life.

so many more angels...you know who you are...Joe Zerbolio, Mosaad Ghoneim, Marilyn Barton, Charlie Whiley, S.A. Griffin, Ed Rivers, A.D. Winans, Jon Bohrn, Eloise Nenon, Lydia Dunford, Geoff and Jill Sanderson, Michael Parker, Russell Ragsdale, Scott Owens, Kevin Rowley, Iri K...more...thank you!

Many thanks go to my husband for driving me to doctors' visits, taking over the grocery shopping, yard work. basic errands and more.

For a smile.....some photos over the years. These are a bit goofy, so unless you're brave of heart, don't venture here:-)

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